Ask a (S)expert: “Why Do Men Always Keep Tabs on Their Exes?”
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“Hi Gigi! I’ve been single for a few months and was finally moving on… now my ex is keeping tabs on me on IG. Why do men always keep tabs on their exes?”
To have your questions answered, visit our dropbox below and queer girlie, let me just say: men aren’t the only ones who do this. We’ve all experienced this. You know, those exes that are always the first to watch your story – but never reach out. When your ex circles back, it’s easy to think you’re irresistible and that you were never the problem. I mean after all… they came back.. right?
No. In all honesty, your ex is simply lurking and it should mean nothing to you – yet. They’re probably just bored, or lonely, hoping you lack boundaries and are willing to play their game once again. “Lurking” is the bare minimum and lacks intention. Now, if they make an intentional effort to reconnect with you through conversation or maybe sending flowers, that’s a different story.
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So, if you’re wondering whether your ex is worth the investment, keep reading for five green flags that hint you might stir correct.
Signs a second chance is worth exploring:
1. You’re able to forgive both yourself and them for past mistakes.
2. There’s healthy communication about past issues and commitment to correct them.
3. is a former.
4. The timing was once off, but now aligns
5. And we have the T on the official technique.
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